Monday, June 9, 2008
I’m sick again.
I was feeling particularly fatigued last week, so emailed my doctor on Friday and asked if this could be from the medication I’m now taking. “Anything’s possible,” was her email response. That night I had fever of 101.3.
On Saturday, I woke with normal temperature, but it climbed to over 101 again by afternoon. The same thing happened Sunday and again today. I was in email contact with my doctor every day, so she invited me in to run blood tests and cultures this afternoon.
So far there’s no indication that it’s anything bacterial, but she started me on a proactive course of antibiotics to fend off upper respiratory or other infection.
As I was leaving her office I said, “I won’t hug you. I don’t want to spread anything around.”
“It’s okay. I never get sick,” she said.
“Neither do I.”
The irony wasn’t lost on either of us.
Wednesday, June 4, 2008
The interview with Dr. Jay Adlersberg of WABC's Eyewitness News will air on television this afternoon about 5:50 PM. Don't worry if you miss it when it airs. If you go to the Eyewitness website afterwards and click on "7 ON CALL" on the left, you'll see a list of broadcasts from the past couple of weeks. Each of Dr. Adlersberg's pieces has a transcript and a video, though it appears there's a delay of up to a day before the video gets uploaded. The starting timestamp on most of the videos is 5:55 PM, though some start at 5:54.
I don't know what happens to a piece when it scrolls off after the list fills up. I don't know if the link remains active even though you can no longer see it to select it, but I hope to find out later this afternoon when I try to link directly to yesterday's oldest piece.
In any event, I will post the direct link later today. I'll add it to this blog post, and hopefully it will remain active after its two weeks of fame is up.
The interview was fun to do. Dr. Adlersberg spoke with me, with another patient, and with our oncologist. They shot a lot more footage than they need, since each of the health broadcasts gets edited down to about two and a half minutes.
P.S. The melanoma piece is now up on WABC's website, video and all, including a really ugly set of pictures of melanoma lesions. The picture you see when you click the link and first go to the site is not in the video; it's my treatment nurse starting my IV.
Monday, June 2, 2008
As you may know, I'm currently enrolled in my second Gotham Writers' Workshop class; I started Memoir Writing at the end of April and I'm loving the experience! My latest homework piece is about something that happened just last week. It's a bit long, so I'll forgive you if you don't read to the end. But if you do find it interesting, know that I'm posting it here as a thank you gift for all who have encouraged me to write. The assignment was to write about a mundane task while thinking about something else...
“I’ve wanted one for so long. I love it,” I gushed. “Maybe someday you’ll meet a man who’ll buy you one.” I made the ridiculous comment to my daughter who looked on dispassionately.
“I’ll buy my own,” she retorted, putting me in my place and glancing with scorn at the gifter, her soon-to-be stepfather. At nine years old, she was more of a feminist than I was!
That machine went on to prepare a huge number of meals, both festive and mundane. Years later I gave it to my daughter after repairing its burned out motor. The new Cuisinart I got to replace it didn’t log nearly as many hours. My marriage was deteriorating by then and I lost interest in cooking, perhaps as a symbolic reflection of the bigger picture. Later on, I was happy to leave that second machine behind in the detritus of divorce. I was looking forward to a new life, a new home, a new Cusinart; and this one I’d buy myself.
My daughter enters the kitchen from the garage and we hug. The potatoes are washed and cubed; the onion, egg, and flour are all laid out, ready to combine into my favorite comfort food. This daughter, now approaching twenty-five, is the product of that second marriage (and first Cuisinart). She has just flown in from the west coast and we will have a brief visit together before she heads off to visit her boyfriend in Pennsylvania.
“I’m making potato pancakes.”
“Latkes, yum. Do you have applesauce?”
“No, but there’s sour cream in the refrigerator.”
You wouldn’t know from the nonchalance of the conversation that we haven’t seen each other in six months. It’s always the same with this daughter: she walks in as if she’s never been away. Her life has taken its own direction, but her energy instantly fills the house. Even when she was in high school, when she and her friends drove themselves everywhere and every minute not studying was filled with social gatherings; even then, her essence warmed the house though her physical presence was often elsewhere.
“When I was in high school, I grated everything by hand," I mused. "That was the only way to do it then. The onions always made me cry, and little pieces of skin usually found their way into the batter. I’d try to grate down to the last little bit and my knuckles invariably got in the way.”
“Yewww.” Is she sympathizing with my long ago injury, or expressing vegetarian distaste?
By this time the pancakes are sizzling in the cast iron frying pan I’ve had forever. I stare across the table at her beautiful face and see my features accented by her father’s coloring: dark curly hair and dark, sparkling eyes. It’s an exotic combination that fooled people into thinking she looked like him, but I always knew better. When I got tired of verbally pointing out the similarities between us, I laid out proof in the form of a collage: three pictures, three toddlers – my daughter, my husband, and me – all around two years old and looking very much like siblings.
It took many years to unravel so much overlapping sameness into three such distinct lives. My husband and I had been together for nearly twenty-five years and my daughter was just starting high school when we finally decided to divorce. He wanted the house and I wanted my life, so I bought a nearby townhouse and set out to start over. My daughter devised a schedule where she would spend half of each week in either house, and insisted we adhere to it religiously. She and I fashioned my new house into a home together and refrained from introducing her father into it. It was the same when she was with him; she needed to keep us physically divided in order to process the emotional split, even though he and I remained co-parents and even friends.
Every stage of life has its own challenges and rewards, but that period when the separation was new and I wasn’t yet an empty-nester was and remains very special to me. My career blossomed, my relationships with both my daughters flourished, and my sense of independence became a source of joy for me as I set out to try new things. Life has become more difficult since then – no straight lines, I keep reminding myself, but sometimes I wonder if I can continue to remain up to the challenge.
“Thanks for the pancakes Mom. They were delicious.”
“Have a safe trip sweetie. Hugs to Luke,” I say. “I miss you already,” I think, as she drives off, leaving behind a swirl of years in her wake and tears welling up in my eyes.